Jen got a guy – can we change the conversation now, please?Posted: August 11, 2015
As this blog’s ‘spinsteration’ (although I know technically she wasn’t as she’d been married before to ‘that other bloke’), I feel I cannot let this pass without some kind of comment.
The conversation around Jen in the last ten years – since ‘that other bloke’ – has been woeful, tragic and embarrassing. I’m not talking about Jennifer but the press. Last week, the day after she secretly married her angular beau a London paper called her ‘lovelorn’.
ON THE DAY OF HER WEDDING.
This about a woman who is a multi-millionaire, who has dated consistently hot guys since her divorce and has been engaged for three years.
But still, the world wanted to write Jennifer a different story. Over and over.
She was desperate. She was lonely. She was sad.
No. She wasn’t.
I’m not saying she didn’t have moments of any of the above but she is a human so I think that’s allowed.
Jennifer Aniston is a success story. I’ve always championed her cause because the negative dialogue around her is as much of a fairy tale as the life we are told is lived by her former husband and his actress wife and their many kids.
Fairy tales are just that. Made up stories that push an agenda (Brothers Grimm for president!).
Why the media have always felt it their right to cast a successful woman as such a loser is beyond me. And what does that say for the rest of us who are actually on our own and not multi-millionaires?
Why, said Mama Bear, “I don’t know how you can possibly get out of bed in the morning, you’re so pathetic. And probably lovelorn.”
We don’t need to feel sorry for Jennifer Aniston and we never have.
“Jen’s baby heart-ache!”
“Jen and Justin’s shocking no-way-back rows!”
“Jen’s ageing nightmare – she sleeps in a vat of engine grease to stop her skin wrinkling!”
Whatever, it’ll be ridiculous, risible and redundant.
This blog celebrates women. But make no mistake fellow spinnys, we are not living in an enlightened age.
Women are scrutinised more than ever. Women are put down, bullied and ignored every day. Single women who have never married and have no kids have all that times a thousand.
Women are still not allowed to be who they really are.
We may live our lives but the narrative that runs alongside it, is stuck in the dark ages.
So congratulations Jen and Justin.
And the rest of us – carry on doing what you’re doing because you’re doing great.
Life is cyclical, life is tricky and life is unexpected.
That’s why we need to support each other as we navigate our way forwards and upwards.
And that why it’s good to have friends. Oh hold on…
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