When friends cross over (from single to married to parents)Posted: December 5, 2011
At a party this weekend, I saw a huge change in two friends.
They married 18 months ago and have always been known as big party givers. Lovely people. Generous, kind and fun-loving.
But this party was different.
They’ve made no secret of the fact that they want to start a family as soon as possible, and from what I can tell, part of this plan seems to involve surrounding themselves with tiny people, maybe as some kind of good luck charm?
I walked into the house and couldn’t believe how many kids (mostly toddlers) were there.
How had this happened?
I haven’t seen them for a while and their gatherings had always been child-free, casual and relaxing. Not today. (Kids playing bumper cars with your shins, parents yelling across the room, cheesy snacks flying through the air.)
Speaking to Sally (as I shall call her), she seemed slightly altered. We talked for a couple of minutes before I saw a faraway look in her eyes, her attention wandered and then she suddenly dropped to her knees. What the hell?
I looked down to see her talking very gently to a girl clutching a stuffed toy.
It was sweet but I thought to myself, ‘I’ve lost her.’
I can easily blank out little people *swat* while her radar was on full alert.
Exchanging information with another single friend a few minutes later, we realised that neither of us had seen ‘Sally and Harry’ for months and months.
We’re not their inner circle anymore.
We’re no longer relevant to the life they want to lead.
Now it’s all mums and dads and couples and kids.
They’ve crossed over.
It happens. I get it.
Made me momentarily sad though.