Catch 42?Posted: June 7, 2011
One of the things my mum (and some of my friends) used to tell me in my twenties was that I was ‘too picky’ because I didn’t date many men (I just knew they were wrong for me so why bother?).
However, as I got older, I started to give men the benefit of the doubt. My friends persuaded me that I needed to ‘give them a try’.
I widened the net.
But all that happened was that I ended up in low-grade relationships, and living in a constant cycle of disappointment.
And now here I am at 42, being told – because I’m still single – to be picky again.
I’m being told to:
Write lists describing my ideal man.
Know what I want.
Be serious about dating.
Be clear about my expectations.
Write more bloody lists.
Well, I started out that way, and it got me no dates.
Being more open to ‘possibilities’ got me bad dates.
And now I’m back at square one.