Out of practice: the awkward hugPosted: December 19, 2011
I saw my ex boyfriend recently. We hung out, caught up with news, glared at each other, traded insults, that kind of thing – but as I went to leave he gave me a hug.
Have you ever gone so long without a hug that you forget how to do it, or how it feels?
I sort of awkwardly stood there at a strange sideways angle, with my arms around him. I was tense and alarmed at how it felt to have two arms (that weren’t mine) touching my body. In every way, it was a weird sensation.
Worse, it reminded me of what I was missing.
Everyone needs hugs but if you don’t have a partner or kids, you don’t get very many real ones.
A girlfriend of mine who has been single for a while told me she recently hugged a potential date and ended up at an almost 45 degree angle, pushing away from him so that only their arms were entwined.
“I didn’t want him to feel my belly!” she exclaimed.
But why not? Touching all the bits – squishy, firm or otherwise, is part of the fun of really letting go.
It’s clear that hugs need practice.
But finding the hugger, or the huggee, now that’s a different story.